Everything we do and say will lead to a certain reaction. It will be interpreted by others. No matter whether or not the way people might understand it is what we really meant.
Most people are generally passive. They mostly react to what's going on around them.
So whenever someone doesn't treat you right, whenever someone is disrespectful or whenever someone talks shit behind your back, try to find out the real reason.
Don't just try to find a good reason. Don't just try to find the reason that makes your life easier. That makes you feel comfortable.
In most cases (not all cases) people are just reacting to the things you've done or said in the past. To the way you behaved. And we might not be aware of it, but many things we do and say might be very disrespectful to others.
Maybe you hurt their feelings some time in the past.
Maybe you didn't treat them with the amount of respect they think they deserved.
Maybe you didn't appreciate their work as much as they wanted it to be appreciated.
Or something you didn't do or didn't say, which you should have done or said.
It might be the way you walked into that store and didn't greet the guy at the counter.
The way you talked to that customer service representative on the phone.
The waiter you treated like a subordinate at that restaurant.
Everything you say and do will lead to a certain reaction.
And yes, I'm aware of it. Everything I say and do is disrespectful to many people out there. What I do and say might discredit other people's way of living. That's not really my aim but that's how many people will see it.
Maybe that's just me trying to find a good reason. Instead of a real reason. Maybe I'm just trying to make my life easier. To make it more comfortable. I don't know. But it doesn't matter right now. That's not the point.
What matters instead is to start realizing that we're usually the ones to throw stones first. And not others. Most of the time people are just reacting to our own behavior. Sometimes we might be aware of throwing stones. Sometimes we might not.
So whenever someone treats you in a way you think you don't deserve, whenever you feel like someone is throwing stones at you, try to look for the real reason. And not just a good reason.
Maybe you've (unconsciously) thrown the first stone some time in the past. Just like I'm throwing stones with each and every article I publish. Even this article right here is me throwing stones at other people..