A while ago I wrote a blog post where I said that the best way to live your life and not someone else's, is to stop caring about what other people might say about you and that people should ultimately screw their reputation and forget about their egos.
Now we all know that this is pretty easy to say and it might look quite easy in theory but it's super hard to really implement it in our daily lives. I'm not a perfect person either so I also constantly struggle to follow my own advice.
And as a matter of fact just a few days later I came into a situation where someone talked shit about me.
This kind of stuff can happen to anyone out there and it doesn't really matter whether you're the world's biggest capitalist or the world's biggest saint.
There will always be people that will disagree with you.
So here's what happened:
A good friend of mine told me that he met this guy who was talking bad about me (without anyone having asked his positive or negative opinion about me). Needless to say that my friend told me about it afterwards.
The guy was apparently telling my friend that I feel like I'm a really bad ass entrepreneur, whereas in reality I'm just a wantrepreneur that doesn't know shit about anything.
And in fact he might be right...
I really have no clue what to call myself and I haven't done anything remarkable in my life so far.
I figured if no one pays me to show up every single day and I don't work from 9 to 5, I don't have any long term contracts or know how much money I'll have at the end of each month I'll just call myself entrepreneur.
Maybe lifestyle entrepreneur is a better word for what I'm doing. I don't know.
Sometimes I also introduce myself as unemployed (depending on the amount of laughter I feel like getting on that particular day)...
I've lived out of a backpack for more than 7 years...
I worked, lived and traveled all over the world with a carry-on backpack with just 3 outfits in it.
The most valuable thing I own is a $300 laptop.
I never had a place of my own.
I never bought any furniture in my life.
And at one point I decided to I write a book about what I've learned.
And today you can get a free copy of that book.
Click here to claim your copy now (it's free, for now)...
But let's go on with the story here.
So this guy was talking bad about me in front of other people. Point taken. I was a bit upset when I heard about it because I tried to help them out a few times already, but never mind.
Now here's the best part of the entire story.
The exact same day, just a few hours earlier one of his colleagues (an investment manager) asked me whether or not I could help them out with something. They needed some sort of support for one of their events.
And you know what I did (knowing that his colleague was talking shit about me)?
I just went on and said “sure thing I can try to help you guys out”, reached out to a bunch of folks and just did my thing.
Thinking about my “screw your reputation” post I realized that the only way to get over people that are talking bad about you is to go on with your life, continue giving the best you can so that one day the famous saying Gandhi put out there a while ago might become true:
First they ignore you, then they laugh at you, then they fight you or talk shit about you and then they ask you how you've done it (I know, I just changed it a bit).
So don't let others get you down. Instead, try to focus on getting better every single day, don't let other people's negativity into your life and actively decide to keep on going while others will just stand still, break down, fold their cards and give up...
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