I was scared. Really scared. What happens if I fail? Will I have to do this stuff for the rest of my life? Will I be stuck forever? What if I don’t like it? What if I want to go back, but I can’t? What if I want to start a family one day but don’t have enough money to do so? What if..?
These were all questions I asked myself when I went out there, rolled up my sleeves and started working on my first own project. Questions that were all highly hypothetical. Questions that I actually never really had to find an answer for.
Similar questions like these include the following:
Will she leave me? Is she the one? Is this the right job for me? Will I have to work this job for the rest of my life? Will I be able to ever feed a family and so on…
All of these questions, all these doubts will only eat up your energy instead of helping you. They will only slow you down. They will paralyze you. They will hinder us from taking any sort of decisions.
And then we start to get afraid. We are guided by fear.
But all of a sudden all of this doesn't matter anymore. All of your worries, all of your sorrows and all of your regrets suddenly vanish into thin air within a few seconds when you start to realize one really important thing:
Nothing really lasts forever. No decision that you take today will last forever. Every decision is temporary. Every decision you take will only last until you have to take the next decision.
Be it the decision to leave your current job you once decided to accept because you found a better one. Be it the decision to stop working on this project you once decided to work on because you now have a better one at hand or be it the decision to leave your current girlfriend you once decided to be with because you now love someone else.
Everything is just temporary (ok almost everything..).
But knowing this doesn’t mean that you should stop giving 150%. No, that’s not what it means at all. Knowing this should actually push you even harder. You should go all in all the time because you understood one crucial thing:
Taking one decision will usually allow us to tap into even more opportunities that allow us to grow even further and progress even more in life. Making one decision usually opens up the door to ten other opportunities we can now choose from and pick the most appealing ones.
Instead of worrying about all the negative consequences of all the decisions you have to take at one point or the other in your life you should welcome them. You should welcome life changing decisions and not try to chase them away or let them wait in front of your porch.
Offer them a place to stay. A roof over their heads. Build them a house and make them feel at home. Because they will be the ones that will introduce you to a highway full of other life changing opportunities and decisions.
So you’d better treat them right and stop procrastinating. Invite them in. Serve them your best meal. Stop putting off decisions and say goodbye to a half baked life where you’re constantly in doubt about every decision you take.
After all, decisions are only temporary. The decisions you take today might not be valid anymore tomorrow. They will be replaced as soon as you take the next decision…