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I can still remember the days when I was a kid that didn’t mind anything at all. Life was just a big play. No regrets, no fear and not caring about what others might think about this or that. Just living and enjoying life to the fullest.
For me it all started when I stopped playing. I was never really sure about what it was that was missing. I just knew that something got lost over the years, that I was somehow out of balance and my brain was busy 24/7 thinking and worrying about all sorts of work related things. I couldn’t really figure out what it was until just recently.
Here’s how my normal routine looked like and how I found out what was missing:
• Sitting in front of my laptop the entire day.
• Drinking some coffee and a lot of green tea.
• Reading books for some hours a day.
• Going out for a run every 2nd or 3rd day.
• Meeting up friends for coffee/drinks .
• Networking and introducing people.
Now the first two points are just fine because that’s the stuff we adults do to be able to pay for our living and function properly in this world (Is this useful? I don’t know). The third one is definitely something a lot of kids would do as well. But what about the last three things?
Did you ever see a little kid going out for a run? Even multiple times a week? Or meeting up friends for coffee or drinks to have a chat? Going to networking events? Probably not, because most of it is just boring (most of the time).
The only time you would see kids running around is when they play and want to have fun with their friends. But going out for a run all by themselves? What would be the point of it? That would just look ridiculous and everyone would make fun of the kid.
Kids usually also don’t meet up with their friends for a drink or coffee and they probably won’t attend networking events either.
Instead, they would just walk across the street to their friend’s house and start playing games, having fun, and secretly drinking loads of sugar enhanced drinks and eating tons of unhealthy snacks and/or chocolate.
And that’s what was missing in my life. I somehow completely stopped or forgot how to really play and how to really enjoy it. And that's what gave me me the feeling of being "out of balance".
I don’t just walk over to a friend’s house anymore or meet up with friends to play Nintendo, play hockey at my friend’s basement or football out in the fields.
When my niece asks me whether or not I want to play with her outside I usually told her that I was busy working, even though I didn’t do anything really productive for the last hours.
I considered checking the amount of my Facebook likes, Retweets and clicks on my blog as serious work (I can actually do this day in, day out).
What I realized by analyzing my list of daily habits is that I completely left out the play part in my life, because I was pretending to be too busy doing this or doing that.
That was probably one of the worst (conscious or unconscious) decisions I could ever have taken, because while playing we forget all our sorrows, regrets, anxieties and our uber super busy lives.
But I have to stop writing for now. I will be out playing with my niece…