A couple of weeks ago I did a post called “2013 - The year where I lost myself”. I got a lot of positive reactions and it helped me to get back in touch with a lot of people I haven’t seen in quite a while.
There was this one guy I met, who said that he faced similar difficulties and tough decisions in 2013. He sent me a message on Facebook telling me that he tackled them quite differently and asked me if I wanted to meet up. He was also living in Munich. A couple of days later we met for coffee.
After a while of chatting and talking about this and that he told me that he somehow admired me for what I did. Alright, this is interesting I thought. So there are actually people admiring other people that quit their jobs, that had to move back in with their mom’ s because they broke up with their girlfriends and don’t have a regular income…
So here is why he thought that what I did was great: instead of overanalyzing possible outcomes, risks, dangers, drawbacks and being afraid of all sorts of eventualities I just did what I thought felt right at that moment and started fighting instead of worrying about all sorts of possible outcomes or eventualities.
He on the other hand got somehow stuck in the process of evaluating pros and cons and ended up making no clear conclusions at all and didn’t start acting.
I was still thinking about the entire story on my way back home, but buried my thoughts somewhere in the back of my head once I got home. A couple of days later I came across a really nice quote that made me think about the discussion once again. Here’s what it read:
"It is one thing to study war and another to live the warrior’s life."
I thought that this was a brilliant quote that can pretty much be used as a guideline for almost all situations in our lives where we face some tough decisions. I immediately forwarded it to him because I thought it might be a nice follow up.
But I didn’t stop thinking about it. So here I am, a couple of weeks later, reflecting and thinking about it while you read it. Here is what I finally came up with:
We live in a time where we have to make hundreds of decisions every day and have more information at hand to support our decision making process than we ever had before. But the worst thing is that we have too many options for everything.
At the end of the day we prefer to just stick to the things we already know and prefer to stay on the beaten track and snuggle up in our cozy comfort zones. At least we know what we get. No surprises, no trouble.
The sheer endless and constant availability of information and options that should actually encourage us to act somehow leaves most of us paralyzed and we remain still and say no to actually experiencing new things and experimenting.
Tomorrow is the new today of an entire generation, until we realize that there aren’t a lot of tomorrows left to start living our dreams, experiencing new things and actually living life.
I guess we are all just too afraid of really experiencing things, of building up relationships, of being hurt, of getting disappointed, of not being able to pay the bills, of not being able to feed our families and most importantly not knowing what the future might look like.
Having to live in ambiguity kills most of us, along with all our dreams. So we decide to experience things online, while watching YouTube clips of far-away places and scrolling through newsfeeds from around the world in the comfort of our homes, far away from any danger or unexpected things.
I am probably the best example for this "disease". The first thing I do when I wake up in the morning is to wonder what things I won’t be able to finish until the end of the day. This usually leaves me in doubts about myself, my persistence and my general attitude.
When I go to a restaurant I`ve already been to before, I always eat the exact same dish, because I am afraid if I try something else, I might get disappointed. Even though it can be very hard some times, I try to experience new things every day. This is probably one of the toughest things out there.
I know that the world can be a horrible and scary place, especially if we listen to what news channels, newspapers and magazines tell us every day. But it is also a place with countless opportunities to build our own lives, instead of just living the life our lizard brain or society keep telling us to live.
If I could sum it up, I would probably say that most of us are afraid of living our own lives and really experiencing things. But to really live life and experience new things, we have to get off the beaten track and start creating our own little path. A path that is a lot more unpredictable, but that’s what makes it a lot more fun in the end, doesn’t it?
The world is changing. Faster than ever before.
What worked yesterday might not work anymore tomorrow. But some things will always work.
No matter how many robots are out there. Or how many algorithms are replacing our jobs.
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