That gift, is it to make the other person happy or is it to make yourself happy and how it makes you feel to give that gift to someone?
That nice looking sweater you just bought for your baby, is it to make your baby happy or is it to make yourself happy?
That charitable job you have, do you do it to help people or do you do it because it makes you feel better about yourself?
That thing you do, do you do it because you enjoy doing it or do you do it because it's the thing you feel like you're expected to do..?
Who is it really for?