Would I still do it if I knew what I know today?
Because if I didn't do it, I wouldn't know what I know today...
[Related: I stopped giving a shit a long time ago]
A lot of people tell you that you have to write every single day.
Otherwise you'll forget how to do it.
I don't know if this is true.
Maybe it is.
Maybe it isn't.
What I do know though is that if I stopped writing just for one day, it would be so damn hard for me to get started again.
Simple because if you break the chain once, if you skip something just once, it will never be just once.
That's at least what usually happens to me.
You'll skip it a second time. Then a third time. And on and on and on.
Until you stop for good.
Until all the doubts start to kick back in.
And the voices living inside your head.
And then you'll come up with all sorts of excuses.
"I wasn't good enough anyway."
"No one read it."
"No one even cares."
And on and on and on.
And that's the real reason why I write every single day...
So why do I even write?
I don't know.
Why do I even breathe...?
It's easy to say “I told you so.”
It's easy to not do it.
To give into the voices living inside your head.
To stay where you are.
To never try.
Nothing wrong about that.
But the truth is that if you don't do it, you just don't know it.
And what might be even worse is that you'll never really know.
Maybe it won't bother you today.
Maybe it won't bother you tomorrow.
Or the day after tomorrow.
But what about next year?
Or twenty years from now?
No one really knows.
You'll only know it when you do it...
There's no one left anymore who could say “yes” to you. Or “no”.
Most gatekeepers are gone.
So back in the days you had at least people telling you either “yes” or “no”.
But today, no one says “yes” or “no” anymore.
As a matter of fact, the response you'll hear the most is silence.
Especially when you're just getting starting.
Silence is the sound you'll hear the most when you put your work out there.
That piece of art.
That blog post.
And silence is probably one of the hardest things to deal with.
When you don't get any feedback whatsoever.
It's worse than a “no”.
It leaves you clueless.
And that missing feedback is why many people just give up.
Why we stop putting ourselves and our work out there.
We think that silence means “no”.
When in fact silence can mean “yes”.
But we're just not sure yet.
Because we want to see more.
We want to hear more.
Because we've already seen hundreds of pieces today.
Because we've already listened to hundreds of songs today.
Because we don't know you well enough, yet.
So we just wait. And see what happens next.
We wait and see whether or not you'll still be around tomorrow.
Or the day after tomorrow.
Simply because most people will be gone tomorrow.
Most people give in to the sound of silence.
Don't be one of them...
That presentation gets done.
That term paper gets done.
That design gets done.
That project gets done.
It's astonishing what we're able to get done when we're told to what to get done.
When we have to get it done.
But on the other it's so hard to get anything done when we're not told to what to get done.
When we don't have to get it done.
Like that book.
Or that website.
Or that blog.
Or that blog post.
Or learning that instrument.
So why do we get all of these things done that we're told to but at the same time we have such a hard time getting all the other stuff done?
The other stuff meaning the things that will help us grow.
The things that can change our lives.
The things we might even really enjoy doing.
And the answer is pretty simple...
We get all of this stuff done because of fear.
Fear of losing our jobs.
Fear of not getting that degree.
Fear of not getting paid.
So if fear is the driver to get things done why not use it in our favor?
Why not use it to get all the other stuff done that we don't have to get done?
So here's the biggest fear we all have...
It's so big we try to ignore it as much as we can.
And when I say "we" what I really mean is me.
The biggest fear of almost all of us is that one day we'll all be gone.
No matter what...
So why not use that as a driver?
To get all of the things done that we don't have to get done.
To do all of these things that will help us grow.
That will help us to unleash our potential.
And you know what?
It's the one thing that pushes me every single day.
And it pushes me hard.
So will it work for you?
I don't know.
But it works for me.
Even though I still don't know how to play the guitar...
Today it's easier to get started than ever before...
You name it.
That's also the reason why most people give up so easily.
Because it was too easy to get started in the first place...
"No one cares about me."
"I won't be able to change anything."
And it's true.
It's very likely that no one wants to hear your story.
That no one really cares about you.
That you won't be able to change a damn thing.
But what's also true is that when you believe that no one wants to hear your story, that no one cares about you, that you won't be able to change anything, then it just won't happen.
Because you let yourself off the hook.
If you don't believe in your story, if you don't believe in yourself, in your change, then it's very likely that no one else ever will.
So maybe people do want to hear your story.
Maybe people do care about you.
Maybe you will be able to change something.
Even if it's not true.
Even if you're just telling yourself that story.
I know. It's a very simple story.
But a very powerful one.
It's the story that changed my life...
Don't spend your time thinking about all of the things you can't do.
And instead spend your time doing the things you can do.
Because the more you do and the less you think, the better you'll get.
And the better you'll get, the more you'll move the needle away from impossible and closer to possible...
You don't work on things that matter.
No one really works on things that matter.
Because nothing really matters.
And the only way you turn something that doesn't matter into something that matters is by putting in your blood, sweat and tears.
By giving it all you got.
Only if it matters to you will it matter to people out there.
If it doesn't matter to you, if you're not willing to put in your blood, sweat and tears, the truth is that it'll never matter to anyone out there.
So if you want to work on things that matter do this...
Give it all you got.
And put in your blood, sweat and tears.
That really is the only way.
No matter what you're working on.
Because nothing ever really matters.
You have to make it matter...
What happens when everything goes according to plan is that, well, everything goes according to plan.
Which is great.
At least at first.
But what happens when everything always goes according to plan is that you get addicted to things going according to plan.
And when you always want everything to go according to plan, you'll never really do new things anymore.
Simply because the only way that things will always go according to plan is that you follow the same old plan over and over again.
That you do the same old things over and over again.
That you never really try out new things anymore.
And never really learn new things anymore.
So after all, maybe it's not so bad if things don't go according to plan.
Every once in a while...