Don't let them fool you...
And to me that's one of the biggest problems of my generation. Maybe even every other generation out there. I don't know. There are so many gurus out there. And everybody says something else.
Someone might say this and then the other person might say that. So at the end of the day you're even more confused than you've ever been before. That's why the self help industry is so big. Because they're basically creating their own clients.
And because you're even more confused than before, then you'll be looking for more and more answers and you'll end up consuming more and more stuff.
We've basically unlearned to find our own answers.
I get it. Sometimes you need advice. But not all the time. Just sometimes.
And what happens when you're always looking for answers elsewhere is that you'll never ever take action. Even though most of the stuff out there is about taking action and hustling, it does quite the opposite. It's just too overwhelming. Too much.
But the answers have and always will be inside of you. And nowhere else.
That's why it's called self help. And not someone else help.
Sometimes I even believe that we would be better off with most of this stuff. With less people like me. So we'd learn how to find our own answers again.
What you shouldn't forget when you consume all of this stuff online (just like this thing right here) is that most people make money saying this or saying that. Or that they plan on making money some time in the future.
That's why there are so many out there. Because it's a business. It's a billion dollar industry. And by the way, also the platform you’re reading this is a business. First and foremost. A business that depends on the time you spend on it.
And I think that's totally fine, as long as you're always aware out it. Always...
What I think is most important these days with the never ending supply of gurus and self help BS out there is to be able to navigate that jungle.
And what I found out to be working best for me over the years is to pick my top 3-5 people and then only consume their stuff.
Otherwise you might end up even more confused than you ever were before. And then you might never take action. And never get going.
I don't know if this works for you. But that's what I do. That's what works for me.
I only consume stuff online from 4 people. And nothing else from no one else. I've never read an article on Medium from someone else other than them. I don't read other people's blogs. I've never watched a video from someone else other than them. Ok, a few TED talks maybe.
I think that this is the new version of the “You are the average of the five people you spend most time with.”
If you spend too much time with too many different people at the same time you'll only end up being a superficial mix of too many different things.
You'll end up being a big mix of superficial and conflicting stuff when you read too many different things online from too many different people conflicting each other.
So go out there and find your five people. Find the five people that inspire you. And don't just choose them because they are rich. Or successful. Or whatever external measure.
Choose them because they are the kind of person you want to be. Choose them because of their characteristics. And not because of what they have achieved. Most of the uber successful people don't seem to be so nice in real life after all.
Choose them because they’ve taken a similar path to yours. Choose them because they’ve taken a path you want to take.
And it doesn't matter what field they're coming from. They can come from every field and every discipline out there. It doesn't matter.
And it's not about copying them. Or being someone you're not. It's the exact opposite. It's about being yourself and finding out how you can make it work to be yourself.
It's about figuring out how they made it work for themselves. How they were able to get to where they are right now. It's about studying their past. Their history. Their strategies. And their techniques.
And then applying what you've learned to your own life. To being yourself.
To be able to get going, to move forward, to become the best version of yourself and to be able to unleash your potential.
You've gotta pick your team. You've gotta pick the five people you hang out with the most.
Because you are the average of the five people you spend most time with.
But then again, it's probably better if you find your own ways.
This is just my way.
This is just the way that works for me...