I was mostly getting drunk and hanging out at random clubs to meet random girls. That's what most of my early twenties were really all about.
He asked me what he could do to grow his audience online. He was 21 years old, just started working at a successful startup and on top of that he was looking for advice on how he could grow his audience for his blog.
So that's basically what I told him.
I told him that at his age I was mostly hanging out at clubs or bars, getting drunk and trying to meet random girls. So if he's putting in the work for the next 10 years or so and with putting in the work I don't mean working the corporate (or startup) ladder, he'll probably be free to do whatever he wants to for the rest of his life. Or he won't. I don't know what the world will look like ten years from now. No one really knows. We're all just guessing.
When I was his age I had no clue about what I wanted to do with my life. I still don't really know what I want to do for the rest of my life. Simply because the rest of my life is a pretty long period.
At that age I probably didnt even know what a blog was. And I didn't start writing online until I was 28. I didn't even read more than 10 books in total until I was 28. So technically speaking this guy already has a 7 year headstart.
And that's where it gets tricky. Most people never leverage that head start. Most people never start anything. Maybe some of them do, but when it doesn't work out instantly, they just quit. Maybe after a week or two. Or after a few months. Or maybe even after a year or two. They say it's just too damn hard. This doesn't work.
And instead of starting something else, they quit for good. They settle and give in to the things their friends, family and society told them all along. They agree that it's all just too difficult. That it's never going to work out. Ever.
And that's how most people squander their head start. That's how I squandered my headstart, too. I never really did anything. That's probably also why this guy will squander his head start. Even though, I hope he won't. If you read this, please don't. That being said, you can still start stuff if you're in your forties or fifties. Or maybe even your sixties. As long as you're willing to put in the work.
I released 7 books on Amazon and have written a lot more books that I haven't published and probably will never publish. I have released dozens of online courses. And none of them really helped me to live the life I want to live.
It took me 3 years to make enough money to cover my expenses. I was losing money every single day for 3 years. But I tried to bounce back. Every single day. On some days it was harder. On other days it was easier.
But that's what it's really all about. It takes time. And persistence. And the willingness to get better and to improve your game. To learn from your mistakes. To get back up again. Over and over again. And if something didn't work out, you have to start something new. Something where you can implement the things you've learned from the last thing that didn't work out.
But the truth is that most people don't. Most people stay down. Most people don't bounce back. They give up. Most people decide to not get back up again. They call it a night. Before the real show even started. Most people are not willing to sacrifice anything.
Elon Musk lived off of $1 a day when he was a college student. While his fellow students were spending hundreds of dollars on drinking and partying. He sacrificed more than most of us ever will. He probably still does.
Steve Jobs was fired from Apple, the company he started, and then they bought the next company he started. And then he brought us the iPod, the iPhone and many other things. He never gave up. Even after he was fired from his own company. He bounced back.
Warren Buffett bought his first stock when he was 11 years old and observed everything that was going on at his father's small brokerage. He studied reports for more than 10 hours a day. Every single day. For many, many years. I think he still does this today.
I have no clue about what rules or habits or routines successful people follow. Nor does anyone else. It's probably not even such a good idea to follow someone else's rules or habits anyway. A better idea is to create your own rules and to just be yourself.
Another thing I have no clue about is how to be successful like any of them. I don't even know what success is.
But I think it all starts with this...
Starting at an early age.
Never giving up.
Always bouncing back.
Getting back up again. Over and over again.
And being ready to sacrifice more than most of us...
[Related: I stopped giving a shit a long time ago]