Over the past few years I encountered a very special breed of people.
And I have to admit it. I'm one of them, too.. well, sometimes.
A breed of people that seems very unhappy with their current situation.
A breed of people that doesn't like their jobs. That wants to quit their jobs.
A breed of people that seems to be lacking some things in their lives.
What I was able to observe is that these people start to look for change by changing the outside. The surface. External things.
Now don't get me wrong. I love change. But I feel that change has to happen somewhere else.
Not on the outside. Not on the surface.
Changing and painting the facade of an ugly and run down building will still not make it a beautiful building. The apartments inside the building will still be old, ugly and run down. It might look nice from the outside, but inside it's still a big mess.
No, simply changing the facade won't change a thing. Unfortunately. Because that's usually the easiest thing to do. Just a bucket of paint, a few strokes here and there and you're done..
No, what needs to be changed is the inside, not the outside.
If you don't deal with your inner self and only try to work on the facade, your inner self will still be a big mess.
If you try to ignore that inner mess of yours, the only thing that's going to happen next is the exact same thing that happened before. You know, that one time you were happy. That one time you were satisfied.
Not too long ago you were very happy and pleased with your new job. Your current life. But now, today, the new job feels somehow worn out and run down. Just like that building.
And the exact same thing is going to happen with your new job. Your new partner. Or what not.
The exact same thing is going to happen with that building's facade. Over and over again. Simply painting the facade won't increase the value of the entire thing. It's just a temporary fix. A fix that won't help anybody. Neither the apartment owner, nor the people living in there.
You simply jump from one race to the next.
From fixing one thing on the surface to the next.
Over the past few years I got the feeling that a lot of people simply quit their jobs just to quit their jobs. And to start working on their own stuff just to work on their own stuff. Or to work on an idea just to not work for the man.
What usually happens after a while is that the thing you started working on because you thought it was a good idea (without really being interested in it or being passionate about it) turns into the exact same thing you tried to run away from.
It turns into an old and run down building. It turns into working for the man.
The only difference is that the man this time might be someone else. Maybe a bank. Maybe an investor. Maybe a mortgage. Who knows?
Jumping from one race to the next can't be the solution.
After a while it gets very tiring.
One day you'll end up with no paint left to paint that damn wall. It will run right down without sticking to the surface. Too many poorly painted layers make it impossible to stick.
No paint left. No energy left.
The only way to fix it is to fully renovate that building.
To take your time and deal with your inner self.
To understand your true needs.
What you really want in life.
To find your inner compass.
To find your purpose in life.
To ultimately love yourself.
That's the only way to escape the race.
That's the only way to be happy.
To be satisfied.
It only works inside out.
Not the other way round..
[Related: I stopped giving a shit a long time ago]