There’s so much BS out there about what you should actually do with your life. People and blogs telling you that you should do this or do that. You should quit your job, not go to university, start a company, become rich, start living your dreams and so on.
As it happens to be it’s almost always portrayed as quite an easy thing to do so. Building a company is easy. Raising money is easy. Selling your company is easy. Living with €200 a month is a piece of cake. Hell, this entire life is so damn easy.
We shouldn’t actually call it life anymore. We should call it Disney Land instead. That would be more appropriate. Or maybe we should call it “make a wish and your dream comes true” land. Yeah, that’s a really good name.
But the truth is that dreams usually don’t pay the bills. And if they do pay the bills it was usually quite a long, exhausting and devastating journey to get to that point. Mostly years, sometimes decades.
I’m doing what I’m doing now for over a year and I’m still not even close to the income level I was before I had a stable job. Hell, I don’t even have a proper place of my own anymore. Right now I mainly live in hostels and work location independent in Central Eastern Europe.
But the stories you hear and/or read about in the media are always the same.
Just go to your boss and tell her that you won’t show up to work anymore, starting tomorrow. Now this is definitely the easiest part of it all. But what happens afterwards, the really tricky part, is usually being left out.
The part where you struggle, have doubts over and over again, when you want to quit all of this shit, the sleepless nights and the almost empty bank account is something that no one ever talks about. All we get to see and read are miraculous stories of success.
Stories that only have one single purpose. Selling dreams. And they are actually selling very dangerous dreams. Dreams that trick us into believing that we can continue living our cozy and comfortable life once we quit our jobs and start living our dreams.
And we love these stories because we humans just love having a comfortable and cozy life. But the entire fairy tale will backfire sooner or later. Once people started to believe that something is easy it’s hard to change their minds. It’s now deeply rooted in their system.
But how come that almost no one really talks about the truth?
Well, here’s a question for you: Why should they do so? They are in the business of selling dreams. Their business is based on selling dreams and making people come back for more because they are too afraid of actually living their own dreams.
So they live their dreams by consuming the stuff those people write or talk about. Stuff that seduces people into believing that all of this shit is actually quite easy, a piece of cake and everybody can do this.
It’s definitely not a piece of cake. And it’s also not for everybody. It’s probably one of the hardest things out there.
If you now say whatever, I don’t care about all of this, everybody can do whatever he or she wants to and it has always been about the survival of the fittest, you might be totally right.
But here's the thing. We are constantly being bombarded by the media and all sorts of people and their success stories. We hear and read about people that made it over and over again. About people that became rich. Damn it, they now even have TV shows talking about this stuff.
And then at some point in time we start to believe all of these things. We start to believe that one day we will make it. One day we will also become rich. We will be famous and successful.
It will get all of us. It also got me. I also started to believe that all of this is actually possible.
I bought their dreams and little by little do I realize that I will probably never get rich, famous or successful. That I will never ever be a rockstar or a millionaire in my life (which is ok by the way).
What's even worse is that you will stop dreaming your own dreams.
You will start to adopt other people’s dreams. Dreams that are not really yours.
Deep in your heart you know that you don't want to be a management consultant, an accountant, a business analyst, a doctor, an entrepreneur or a writer.
You actually don't even care about all of this at all. You just do it because the media and society told you that you should do this or do that.
You bought their dreams and now you live someone else's life and dream someone else's dreams. Someone you never met. Someone you don't know. And then you start to turn into that stranger. And deep inside you know that this is just not you. It starts to eat you alive. It kills you.
What you might really be interested in and want to be in your life is to be an artist, a painter or someone with a cute little coffee shop down the street.
But these dreams are not tolerated by society. These things are being wiped out and everyone is forced to go mainstream. You not only buy their dreams, but you also start to forget about your own dreams and your real goals in life.
You become a zombie. A member of a many million zombie strong army that leave their homes every single day, hating their jobs and living someone else's life and turning into a person they don't know.
And that’s the bad side about the entire media thing that's going on out there. They all have their own agenda. TV shows, magazines, blogs and whatever kind of media outlet will try to sell you dreams.
It’s their business. They are in the business of selling dreams (or fear). That’s how they make money.
I'm also guilty of selling dreams. I admit it. Don't ever buy my shit. Don't ever read my stuff or listen to me. And if you do, please come back to this article every once in a while and read it. Read it over and over again. And please be so kind to remind me to not sell dreams anymore in case I do.
And all of these dreams will trick you into believing that all of this will be easy. That the dreams they (and I) sell you will be easy and the only way to get successful, happy, rich or whatever you want to achieve in life.
But once you start buying all of these dreams and forget about your own dreams you start to realize that it’s actually fucking hard, just like I had to realize it myself. You start to realize that you had completely wrong expectations about all of this.
That's when you say to yourself, fuck all of this. I didn’t sign up for this shit. And then you just quit…
[Related: I stopped giving a shit a long time ago]