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In my last post “What your girlfriend, investors and customers have in common” I was talking about the similarities between investors, your girlfriend and customers. But my train of thought didn’t just stop there.
There are probably a lot of things one could list here about why being an entrepreneur will help you to find the love of your life. So here are just a few I came up with. If you have some more don’t hesitate to add them as a comment below…
A) You constantly improve your game
I guess the most important learning that you will have as an entrepreneur is the fact that you realize that you get better over time and it’s the same with love relationships. Almost nobody starts off as a brilliant entrepreneur. There might be a small proportion of entrepreneurs that get it right the first time (maybe ~2%). But they are just naturals.
Unfortunately most of us are not and we need to put in a lot more effort. I am not a natural. I have to constantly work on improving myself. I deeply believe that everyone can become a great entrepreneur, if you’re just trying hard and often enough and fail a couple of times even people like you and me, people that are no naturals can succeed.
And it’s exactly the same with finding the love of your life. If you just sit around, believe that you are a natural and wait for the next big thing or the big love, the one person you think you will fall in love with, you will simply perform miserably. If you haven’t tried often enough your A-Game will suck and you might miss out on the biggest opportunity of your love life ever.
So don’t just sit around and wait for the next big thing, be it a startup idea or a girl you might be able to fall in love with. Instead get more experienced and try to get better at what you’re doing. Then you’ll be ready once the big opportunity shows up and be able to bring your A-Game.
B) You learn how to deal with failure
Are you an entrepreneur that is not a quitter, one that is still motivated and all pumped up even after you received 99 customer “Nos”? Are you the one that is still confident that number 100 will be a “Yes”? And are you still able to get off the ground after number 100 said “No”? Well, then you definitely have what it takes to be an entrepreneur. Because that’s what it’s like. That’s what it’s all about. Every day, all day!
And funnily that’s also what love life is about. Even when you’re down and your boyfriend/girlfriend/wife/husband etc. just left you, you’ll be able to dirt off your shoulders (btw I love this song from Jay-Z), get out there and be even stronger than you ever been before. If one door closes, you’ll be able to see dozens of other doors opening up (not only potential partners).
I know what I am talking about, I just went through a bad breakup and realized how much my past experiences as a failed entrepreneur (remember one of my last posts “I suck as Entrepreneur”?) have helped me to transition into an even more exciting future and get past all of the crappy stuff of a bad breakup a lot faster than usually.
C) You stop caring about what others think about you
I recently read about a rule that in general about 30% of people out there like you, 30% don’t like you and the rest doesn’t really care that much about you. And as an entrepreneur you need to find exactly those 30% that like you as fast as possible and not bother and get rid of the others because they are the ones that will bring you down. It is those 30% that will help you get where you want and need to be.
And it’s exactly the same for the dating world out there. If you care too much about what other people (potential partners) might think about you, you will never go over to him and talk to him. You’ll be too afraid and chicken out because he might not like you or think that you’re a weirdo.
If you instead stop caring so much about what others might think about you, you’ll just go over there and give it a shot and find out as fast as possible if this person belongs to the 30%. That’s what you’ll learn as an entrepreneur.
D) You become a risk taker
Being an entrepreneur is already quite a risky undertaking. But trust me over time you’ll start taking even more risk. This might not only be an advantage, but it definitely is an advantage if you want to find the love of your life. It goes back to the same thing that I just mentioned.
You won’t chicken out too much anymore and instead be more pro-active and go over, take that risk and take what you deserve. After all the worst part of not having the balls to go and talk to someone is the guilt you feel afterwards that might follow you for days, maybe sometimes even weeks.
I guess you get the entire point why being an entrepreneur and finding the love of your life have so much in common. I am sure there are a couple of other great points out there, but I just couldn’t think about any other at the moment. Do you have some more?
[Related: I stopped giving a shit a long time ago]